Millions of people are online everyday trying to meet someone new. For some they are just trying to make new friends, others are looking for romance and others are seeking their soulmates. But how many of them are killing their chances by making the same mistakes thousands of singles do everyday?

If you browse through the personals on any number of sites, there are thousands of ads that are just plain bad. Bad writing, bad photos and they sound like thousands of others. It doesn’t take much to stand out among the crowd and edge out the competition. In the new guide to online dating “I’m Not Barbie and You’re Not Ken” there are dozens of tips on creating successful personal ads that will help you meet more eligible singles. Most of us are not Barbies or Kens, we are just everyday, normal people who would like to meet someone to spend time with.

One of keys to creating a compelling profile is to make it unique and not sound like all the others. It starts with defining what you are looking for–romance, long term or just friends and from there you can create a profile that is uniquely yours. When it comes to posting photos, most people really blow it on this one. If you think posting a picture of you talking on the phone with a cigarette hanging out of your mouth is showing you at your best think again. Listed are a number of tips to post the best photos.

Online safety is a whole chapter in itself and before you place your ad or meet someone in person this is a must read. There are chapters for single parents who are getting back into dating, tips for those over 40. Online dating is ideal for those over 40, even more so than the tech savvy 20 something crowd. Tips for women only including how to weed out the jerks and game players. Tip for men only. If they read this chapter they are almost guaranteed a response.

Stop killing your chances of meeting someone. Do it right and start meeting more eligible singles today.

I’m Not Barbie and You’re Not Ken can be ordered at
http://www.megadatecafe.com

TJ Smith runs Mega Date Cafe, online dating advice, tips, news and links. http://www.megadatecafe.com

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Unfortunately there is no magic formula for surviving a dumping. However, to find someone you want to spend your life with, you have to move on and plan a realistic time scale to move forward. Dating tips are just that, as everyone is an individual, and what works for one does not work for another. However there are fairly standard steps you can devise to succeed. There is no reason that you have to spend the rest of your life going out on your own, and eating solitary TV dinners.

1. DON’T TAKE IT PERSONALLY

You may have been dropped, but it may not be your fault. You may have a holistic approach to your emotional life, but maybe your date did not.
Even if you accept that the break up is coming, it still hurts, it is traumatic. Age is not a great help here, it is always difficult to accept rejection.

2. WALLOW AND GRIEVE FOR YOUR LOSS

Accept the fact that the first couple of days are the hardest mentally and that once you have survived that you are on a roll to picking yourself up,
and dusting yourself and getting back into the fray. If you feel like bawling your eyes out, and eating buckets of cookies, that’s O. K. for a couple of days.

If you need to get help and support from your friends then ask them to help. The most damaging thing that you can do to your self esteem is to go back
and contact your ex. That means e- mail, text and telephone, try and let it go. You are trying to pick yourself up to start again, there is no point in going back.
You have to try and bury it with dignity, and whatever you have to do to achieve that, then go for it. If it means moping around, then mope. If it means having a
makeover, then do it.

3. BURY ANY EVIDENCE OF YOUR EX

Whilst you are feeling annoyed, angry or disgruntled, and let down, destroy any painful reminders of your ex, such as photos. Try not to listen to music
that meant something to both of you, it is OK to wallow in your grief, but do not rub salt in an open wound. This does not mean that you will never listen to
that music again, you may even speak to your ex again, but give yourself an even money chance to heal now.

4. MAKE A LIST

Where you have taken down the photographs of your ex, replace it with a list. Draw up a list of the things, that really annoyed you about your ex. No
I don’t believe you - there has to be something!, if you are thinking he/she was perfect, you are idealizing him. The more humorous this list is the better you will feel, give yourself a laugh even if only through a veil of tears. Part of the pain of being dumped is that it is something that is outside your
control, you may accept that the relationship was pear shaped, and maybe you wanted to end it, but being dumped meant someone else did it to you.
You will survive this, focus on the bad things, and try and accept that you perhaps should have wanted out anyway.
There are occasions when you think that everything was hunky dorey, and it comes a bolt out of the blue. That is tougher to accept, but accept it you must.

Strange things happen in life, but there is no way that you can make someone love you. The reasons people fall in love are as diverse as the people who do it, but
there is no way you can make someone do so. If you have done this then attempt to learn a valuable lesson, don’t invest time in going down that road in the future.

5. SURVIVE THE FIRST WEEK

Right you have managed the first couple of days and you are now thinking what next. Find the hope levels inside you, underneath the layers we all have different
hope levels. When Pandora opened the box, all the evil in the world came out, but left inside the box was hope. It is our ultimate defence that we believe that
a situation will get better. If you are struggling to find hope then dig down deeper. Hope stops you wallowing in your own misery, if you need to mope,
do it in the early on, and then set a time limit. Wallowing for too long a period of time, makes you feel worse, and reduces your self esteem. Set realistic time
limits to move on as fast as possible. Yes I know it hurts, we all know that because it has happened to every single one of us at sometime or another. If you
still have a desperate need to wallow then say to yourself - yes I can every day from say 3.00. P.M. - 3.30 P.M., but focus on getting your head back together in
the remaining times of the day. Force yourself to get out although it may be the last thing on the planet that you feel like doing. Try exercising during the week,
and see how much better you feel afterwards.

6. PAMPER YOURSELF AND BOOST YOUR CONFIDENCE

You have been through the mangle, but don’t let yourself be destroyed. Think about all the things that make you a unique person, as well as the reasons why you
deserve to be loved in your own right. Everyone has the right to be loved, so don’t lose the sight of this fact. Have a manicure and a pedicure, go and get
some retail therapy and enjoy yourself. Even if you are a guy buy yourself something that you have been wanting for ages. Go on treat yourself. Make yourself feel
important and valued as a person.

7. GET BACK IN THE DATING ARENA

After a month your psyche should be starting to heal, think about your gaols, what do you want out of dating, and make it happen.(at least in terms of dates
rather than a long term relationship.

8. ENJOY YOURSELF

Don’t start taking dating too seriously, it is meant to be fun not a sophisticated type of torture.

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This week I want to focus on three things you must never do while on a date, especially first dates. These topics are:

• Littering
• Cigarette Throwing
• Cell Phones

Let me explain how these things can turn your date off and make a bad impression on her:
Littering - I’m sure you have seen litter on the roads, highways, parking lots, etc. How did it get there? Mostly from litter bugs.

Are you a litter bug? This is one bad habit you’re going to have to break if you want to succeed with single women. If you really want to turn off women while on a date, just throw your trash, cups, fast food wrapping, soda and beer cans, beer bottles, etc. while you are driving.

She may be so repulsed that she may not want to see you any more. So, guys be sure and dispose of your trash in a trash can. Don’t throw it out the window while you are driving while on a date. Even better, carry a litter bag in your car

Cigarette Throwing - Do you smoke? If you do, unfortunately some single women don’t like to date smokers or even be around people who do. But, if she doesn’t mind if you smoke or if she smokes too, then you must follow a couple of rules on what not to do with your cigarette after you are through smoking it:

When on a date when you are in any type of vehicle, don’t flick your lighted cigarette out the window into the street, sidewalk, grass, etc. This is very rude and makes a bad impression and labels you a guy with no class. Besides, it’s dangerous and you could catch something on fire. Also, while on a date don’t stomp your cigarette out on streets, sidewalks, floors, etc. This is considered bad manners in front of a lady.

Cell Phones - I’ve covered this topic before, but I want to remind you to never take your cell phone on a date. This is considered bad manners and women don’t like it, especially if you have to answer calls while on your date. And, it would be very rude to make phone calls also. Even worse, don’t wear a cell phone on your belt. This is not the proper thing to wear while on a date with single women.

This article written by Don Diebel (Americas #1 Singles
Expert). If you would like more free dating tips on how to
successfully meet, date, attract, and become intimate with
women, please visit his website at: http://www.getgirls.com.

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