John and Kelly live thousands of miles apart–he in Nebraska, she in Pennsylvania. However, despite the miles they have lots of things in common. Both work in retail, both love outdoor activities, both enjoy Chinese food—most importantly, both John and Kelly share a deep faith in God and attend the same type of church. They are a perfect match for each other.

Fifteen years ago, John and Kelly would probably have never met. However, this year they met on a Christian matchmaking site. How did they do it? First they set up a profile, then searched for personality traits and qualities they were looking for in a mate. John was able to contact Kelly via the website’s message service. Kelly looked at John’s profile, saw that he met her qualifications, then wrote him back. The rest, as they say, is history. . .John and Kelly were married last summer.

Online Christian dating can work for you too. Here are some of the main reasons online dating works:

1. Looks don’t matter as much. Some profiles have a few photos. Many profiles don’t even have pictures. Imagine a love based on mutual understanding and interest rather than first physical impressions!

2. Location isn’t a problem. If you live in a country village with a population of 50, of which all eligible singles are dating, don’t worry about it! Now it is possible to meet someone across the United States or even in another country who shares your commitment to Christ, and has qualities you are looking for!

3. You can limit your search to believers. As Scripture says “be not unequally yoked.” Utilizing good Christian dating services is a way to make sure you are only dating fellow Christians.

4. You can talk to people anytime! Even if you work and go to school, you can still go online late at night or in the wee hours of the morning to try to find that special someone.

5. There are a lot of options! Online Christian dating has become extremely popular. Many of the Christian dating websites offer trial subscriptions at no cost to you. Most have thousands of members to choose from.

Don’t wait! Now is the time to start the search for your life-long love. Pray for guidance, sign up on some Christian dating sites, then get dating!

Rebekah Spicer is a relationship expert and advisor. She helps manage the popular website http://www.Christian-online-dating-guide.com

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Personal values is an important point when it comes to Christian dating. Being a Christian means that you know what Jesus Christ did on the cross and, you are trusting Him to forgive you, and trusting in His death, burial, and resurrection to be enough to cleanse you of your sin. As a result of this you have allowed Him, through the Spirit of God to begin to work some changes in your life, bringing in a new value system. Personal values should be one of the anchors for any Christian dating.

Your personal values and convictions are a part of your character. They are more than just standards you live by. They are a part of whate defines who you are. That is not to say you can decide what values you want to define who you are and begin to live by them. These changes begin on the inside as the Spirit of God begins to work change in your heart. Then as you begin to follow His lead from the inside, your life on the outside begins to change. As a Christian dating you must remain true the changes that have taken place in your life. My love advice is to remain true to the one who has set love in motion within you - Jesus.

These new personal values should be a guide for you. Everyone you meet while dating, whether online dating or the old fashion way, should be judged against the values that have begun to be instilled in you. Online dating allows you to meet a lot of people. Online Christian dating is the same. And a lot of times you meet people who claim to be Christians but given enough time they will show the contrary. Before making any kind of commitment with someone you need to know whether your personal values match up.

If your personal values do not match up with the person you are dating and there doesn’t seem to be any sign of them ever doing so, you should move on. As your own personal values become part of the foundation of who you are, so does a couple’s personal values together become part of the foundation that defines the relationship. If there is disagreement in the area of personal values you can expect trouble down the road. This is an extremely important aspect of Christian dating.

In a relationship the personal values of each person make up the personal value of the couple. So you need to be solid in your own personal values, and be satisfied that the person you are with meets your expectations in the personal values department. Don’t think that if you stay with them and help them along you might be able to change them. More love advice - accept people as they are, if you can’t move on. Find someone who has the same values that you do. And be careful of people you meet on Christian dating sites as you would any place else.

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So many people I have talked to recently are afraid to try online dating for one reason or another. They hesitantly tell me their fears, and hope that I am able to offer them some guidance or advice. Sadly, singles are missing out on some great friendships and possibly life mates, because they are letting fear control their decision of whether or not to try online dating. Here are three of the most common fears addressed:

1. Fear for personal safety.

This fear is due to the reports you hear every so often in the news of a young woman who was corresponding with a man online, only to meet him and find out he was a 75 year old stalker with a knife, ready to kill her. In reality, the reason this type of story even makes the news at all is because it rarely happens. An online relationship is probably safer than “real life” dating. Of course, you would be foolish not to follow time-tested safety tips such as having a friend knowing where you will be the first time you meet someone in person. Also, do not give out your real address to someone online. Lots of safety tips are posted on www.christian-online-dating-guide.com . The bottom line is, of course use reasonable common sense, but don’t let safety concerns stop you from giving online dating a chance. Everything in life has risks, but the rewards can be far greater!

2. Fear that “I’m not good enough”.

This is a ridiculous fear rooted in low self-image. So many singles are afraid they are “too old”, or “too overweight”, or “not good-looking enough.” Therefore, they put themselves into an isolated little box, and lose out on all the great things that life has to offer. Afraid you are “not good-looking enough?” Guess what? There is probably a wonderful man or woman online who is not model material as far as looks go, but would make a terrific, loving, and caring husband/wife. Plus, with online dating, it’s more about getting to know someone for who they really are, rather than superficial first impressions.

3. Fear of moving to another state or country.

This is another fear that can easily be resolved. First, most dating sites have special geographical settings. If you don’t want to move to South Africa or Poland, you can eliminate these potential matches from your searches. Even in the United States, you can limit your searches to certain states or areas. Also, many men and women may be more than willing to move to where you reside. Finally, don’t rule moving out. Just because you have lived in a certain place all your life, does not mean you would not like somewhere new or a change of pace. Stay open-minded.


Online dating is becoming more and more popular, and the opportunities are vast. Don’t let fear stop you from exciting relationships!

Rebekah Spicer is a relationship expert and helps to manage the popular online dating website http://www.christian-online-dating-guide.com.

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