Dating Site can be compared with a baker’s and confectioner’s. Why so? In the same manner as you see a delicious cake and decide if you will eat it a site gives an impression to the site visitors. These are profiles that make a dating site so delicious. There are so many examples but is so difficult to create your own successful dating profile. There are a few important concepts to remember.

No one even keeps the fact that pictures are the first thing anyone ever looks at in a dating profile. What people have written comes second. Will someone contest this opinion?

Successful picture lets you stand out of the enormous number of profiles at the dating site. Remember this is truly a “first impression” and you get only one chance. No doubt that your standards should be as HIGH as possible! Critical eye is so important when selecting any images to put into the site. Make sure that the pictures you show have the ability to amaze those potential visitors who will see you. Successful picture literally makes users slobber. Who never dreamt about that?

Of course, you can be a really foxy in a real life but if your profile is shabby the users - potential admirers will remember the worst of you. Just throw away bad pictures and leave only those ones that really reflect your personality in the most terrific manner. I would advise you taking two good photos of you - a headshot and a full length shot to show your ability to portray different characters, age ranges and importantly personality!

One more point to consider: not just photos attract users. One of our clients shared his opinion with me and you know I completely agree with him: “I’m always on search for the perfect profile - one that has a picture and killer essay attached. I know that there’s no such thing as a perfect person, but I do think you can find a perfect profile.”

Learn to write a successful notice, i.e. dating welcoming message. Creating a profile is more a psychological work than just automatic throwing your ideas without much thought. Examples would be of great help for you. Do not be lazy to spend some time viewing other profiles before posting.

Statistics show that too much of a good thing, is not a good thing! Avoid text that is too lengthy and multiple photographs of the same activity. Be short-spoken and vivid in your words. Say the most you can with as little as possible. Focus on highlights and advantages instead of tedious details. Do not open all your details and remember secrets always attract more than openness.

Any comments? It would be great to discuss them with you.

Marina Zhilenkova
www.online-datingsoftware.com

Marina Zhilenkova is a Senior Sales Manager specializing in Dating Software online sales and writing about Dating and Relationships. Ambitious and self-criticizing, tending to self-education. Check up her latest article and other ones at http://www.pilotgroup.net/support/knowledge/

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Online dating is fascinating.

You can meet thousands of available singles that are literally just a click away, seeking love, romance, dating, marriage, friendship - and yes, of course sex. Men and women alike join dating services hoping to make new friends and start new relationships.

But there are some common mistakes ALL people make when using Internet personals - including YOU!

Here are ten common mistakes all people make when dating online. Check out if you are guilty of some of them.

MISTAKE #1 - “Giving it a try”

Most people start using online personals with the attitude “Let me give it a try and see where it goes”. They don’t really think they WILL meet someone - they only HOPE to meet someone. What is the difference? When you “hope” to succeed, you don’t try hard enough - if it works, great, if it does not work, fine, at least I’ve tried. When you think you “will” meet someone, and it does not work, you change something in your approach to online dating to get the results you want.

BOTTOM LINE: Don’t “give it a try” - do your best.

MISTAKE #2 - Hoping “the right person will find you”

Most people don’t pay when post their profiles on online dating sites, which usually means they can receive letters but cannot answer ads of other members. They hope people will be writing to them. If you are an 18-year-old model-type girl, this may work for you. But if you are not, then you shouldn’t hope your dream partner would email you out of blue. You will get much better results if pay for premium membership to the dating site and write to people yourself.

BOTTOM LINE: Contact other people; don’t wait for them to contact you.

MISTAKE #3 - Sending one-liners

It’s amazing how many people using online personals send letters of the type “Hi, liked your profile, please see my profile”. If your photo does not impress the other person in an instant, most likely they will just delete your email. Some *might* actually read your profile - and if there is nothing in your profile that impresses them in an instant, then they will also just delete your email.

BOTTOM LINE: Write letters that have some substance in them.

MISTAKE #4 - Sending form letters

I always know when I receive a form letter - always! I am sure you know it too. If there are no personal references in the letter, I know this letter was not written specially for me. No one wants to be one of the crowd. Every person wants to be special!

BOTTOM LINE: Write individual letters for each person you contact.

MISTAKE #5 - Writing boring letters

Many people are guilty of this one. They write about things they want to say and not what the other person wants to hear.

The result: letters that are plain BORING.

Remember: it’s not about YOU - it’s about THEM! Tell them what you liked about their profile so much that you decided to write to them. Some things may be uncertain in their profiles - ask questions and guess the answers. For example, she ticked “Tell you later” in her profile about kids - if she did not have any kids, she would say so. Ask if she has kids and tell her you think she does and that you just love kiddies. A person who actually THINKS and what more - thinks ABOUT HER, it’s indeed something special, and your letter is sure to get noticed. Don’t talk much about yourself in your letter (she can always read your profile) - tell her why you think you will be the right guy for HER. If you do not fit her requirements 100%, tell her why it won’t be a problem. You pride yourself as having great sense of humor? Back up your claim - make her laugh! From the first line, your letter should grab her attention and she should not be able to stop reading till the end. THEN she will be certainly compelled to check your profile on the Internet personals website.

BOTTOM LINE: Write interesting letters - the type of letters you would like to receive.

MISTAKE #6 - Contacting dozens of members at once

Once people pay for their premium membership to the online dating site, they tend to contact dozens of members at once. The reason for that is that they don’t hope to receive much response. STOP for a minute: what are you actually looking for? Most of us are interested to start a relationship with someone special. In fact, all you need is only one person - but the one who is RIGHT for you. Do you really want to correspond with 50 people at a time? Spend more time reading profiles on the site, and then select a precious few that you like the most and write to them. Make sure you get responses from your favorites before contacting other people.

BOTTOM LINE: Don’t contact dozens of people at once - concentrate on the ones you like the most.

MISTAKE #7 - Not following up

Let’s face it: we live in a fast-paced world. We tell people “Let’s get together soon” and forget it in an instant. We send an email, never get a response and lose the contact forever. This is extremely important when using Internet personals: if you do not get a response, follow up. Send another email. Tell them you are waiting for an answer and you want to hear from them even if they are NOT interested. Having somebody who is really interested in you is not very common nowadays. This very fact may convince people to answer you. Check if they are premium members. If they are not, they might have to pay the membership fee before they are allowed to answer your email, and this is the reason why they did not respond. Check the rules of the website before assuming they are not interested.

BOTTOM LINE: Follow up. Make sure there are no technical problems averting your contact.

MISTAKE #8 - Not having a photo in your profile

If you don’t have a picture in your profile, you are missing out on people’s attention great deal. Many great singles, men and women alike, NEVER answer mails from members without photos - leave alone writing to them. If you are concerned about privacy, take a photo where you are in the distance and hardly recognizable, or put on sunglasses. Smiling broadly also changes your face.

BOTTOM LINE: Put a photo in your profile. This is proven to increase your chances up to 10 times.

MISTAKE #9 - Bad body language on the photos

When people look at your photos, they try to figure out what kind of person you are. If you cross your arms of legs, or in any other way “cover” your body on the photos, placing a barrier between you and the viewer, you make them think you are timid, insecure and lack confidence. Use open body language - open palms, arms on the sides of your body - never “covering” it, smile and “look” the viewers in the eyes.

BOTTOM LINE: Check your body language - people make their opinion about your personality by looking at your photos.

MISTAKE #10 - Giving up

You’ve tried this and that and nothing worked, so you give up: “Internet dating just doesn’t work for me”. That’s the biggest mistake of all. What you should do is to use your negative experience and learn WHY it did not work. Look at profiles of other people that attracted you and compare it with your own profile. Try to change your wording. Get a new photo with a happy smile. Try to contact somebody you feel nothing about and see how it goes. Maybe you are just trying too hard? Treat your search for a partner as you would treat the search for a new job: if at first you don’t succeed, try and try again. Make it your habit to check new listings every day and write to one person. See what works and use it again. Borrow ideas from other people. Just don’t give up!

BOTTOM LINE: Online dating works. All you need to do is to gain experience. Practice makes perfect. Your special person is waiting for you!

ABOUT THE AUTHOR:

Elena Solomon is a dating coach.

Her latest book “12 Simple Rules” became #1 ‘Love & Romance’ bestseller in the leading ebook distribution service in just ONE WEEK after the release. It shows you EXACTLY how you can utilize the natural laws of attraction and our in-built sexual strategies to win in the game of love. A special part in the book is devoted to online dating.

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Creating and posting your profile to a website specialized in online dating can be your chance to meet your soul mate. But how can you tell you covered the essential points in your profile or what proves you your profile is a complex one ready to attract many persons? Here are some steps you can follow this assuring your success.

1. Don’t pretend to be something that you are not

You should not be afraid to show what you really are as you are unique.These 150 words can bring about an exquisite personality if you are sincere. Don’t try to be something you are not as online dating is encouraging the most intimate feelings to come out. You can tell everything about yourself with no reason to be ashamed of: it is impossible that you won’t find someone to be attracted to your real-self.

You should state loud: I really believe I should be sincere to myself and others because I believe in trust and I am not afraid of being criticized. At least one quality can be found here: I am honest no matter what. I know that there are persons who will disagree but what I can do least is state my own belief and principles because they make me what I am.

Online dating can be understood as a commercial for your person but a sincere one with no trace of manipulation and mischievous intentions. For once in your life you can be 100% proud of what you are.

2. Be unique and original

You must have confidence in yourself and strongly believe that you can be yourself without stopping to be original in the mean time. You should fear what is average, common and usual and come up with something which is entirely fingerprinted by you in your profile for online dating. All your passions may be stated because they are unique and matching only with you. These are important for the person reading your profile so as to make a clear idea of what you really are. However if you feel the need to be outstanding or at least different do it. This will not be considered outrageous but original.

3. Try to think like the person reading your profile for online dating

If you do this you will get rid of that vital need of our’s for coming along everybody’s expectancies. You should always think of what you want that person to be like, according to your own standards. Try to be funny if you are looking for a person with a good sense of humor-that person will respond only to a person who is not boring.

Online dating cannot be criticized as it is the best way to make friends with no connection to some persons you already know. Why am I saying this? Because when you are introduced to a certain person you can never be sure of the opinion he has about you as you don’t know what he was told. Online dating helps you create your own image with no alterations.

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