Personal Values and Christian Dating

22 September 2008

Personal values is an important point when it comes to Christian dating. Being a Christian means that you know what Jesus Christ did on the cross and, you are trusting Him to forgive you, and trusting in His death, burial, and resurrection to be enough to cleanse you of your sin. As a result of this you have allowed Him, through the Spirit of God to begin to work some changes in your life, bringing in a new value system. Personal values should be one of the anchors for any Christian dating.

Your personal values and convictions are a part of your character. They are more than just standards you live by. They are a part of whate defines who you are. That is not to say you can decide what values you want to define who you are and begin to live by them. These changes begin on the inside as the Spirit of God begins to work change in your heart. Then as you begin to follow His lead from the inside, your life on the outside begins to change. As a Christian dating you must remain true the changes that have taken place in your life. My love advice is to remain true to the one who has set love in motion within you - Jesus.

These new personal values should be a guide for you. Everyone you meet while dating, whether online dating or the old fashion way, should be judged against the values that have begun to be instilled in you. Online dating allows you to meet a lot of people. Online Christian dating is the same. And a lot of times you meet people who claim to be Christians but given enough time they will show the contrary. Before making any kind of commitment with someone you need to know whether your personal values match up.

If your personal values do not match up with the person you are dating and there doesn’t seem to be any sign of them ever doing so, you should move on. As your own personal values become part of the foundation of who you are, so does a couple’s personal values together become part of the foundation that defines the relationship. If there is disagreement in the area of personal values you can expect trouble down the road. This is an extremely important aspect of Christian dating.

In a relationship the personal values of each person make up the personal value of the couple. So you need to be solid in your own personal values, and be satisfied that the person you are with meets your expectations in the personal values department. Don’t think that if you stay with them and help them along you might be able to change them. More love advice - accept people as they are, if you can’t move on. Find someone who has the same values that you do. And be careful of people you meet on Christian dating sites as you would any place else.

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Dating Divorced Men - Red Flags to Watch for

20 September 2008

How Do You Know If a Divorced Man Is Relationship Ready?
Dating is all about getting to know people and screening for a good match. It’s important to know what qualities you want in a partner, but how do you know if the men you meet are even ready for a relationship?

Four Telltale Warning Signs
Described below are four telltale warning signs to watch for. The last thing you want to be is a “transitional woman,” supporting a man through the emotional trauma of divorce and getting him prepped for the next woman he meets! That’s a painful scenario every woman wants to avoid.

But, don’t get scared away from dating divorced men. Many divorced men make fabulous partners who want to try again. They’ve already had experience with commitment and frequently prefer to be in relationship. The point is to use these insights to evade obvious pitfalls and be smart about whom you choose to date.

Keep in mind you’re looking for behavioral warnings rather than verbal clues. While these points are generalizations for judging a man’s readiness, if several flags start waving you probably want to think twice.

1) Only Gives You his Cell Phone Number.
Today, there is a small percentage of people who have only on a cell phone because its easier to have just one phone. But providing only a cell phone number can be a tip off that the guy is married, living with someone or involved with multiple partners. For instance, he may have a home phone, but doesn’t want anyone else to answer your calls. This is one of those red flags that requires a bit of woman’s intuition, so pay attention to your instincts.

2) Separated or Recently Divorced and Wounded.
Whether separated or recently divorced, these men tend to be unstable. The end of a marriage can cause deep wounds for anyone. A man whose wife filed for divorce is often in a lot of emotional pain. He may be sensitive and appear needy or angry and even looking for revenge.

Either way, do you want to be Florence Nightingale, nursing him back to emotional health? Therapists agree people need at least one year or more to heal from the pain of divorce. The best advice is to steer clear or be very careful before getting too attached.

3) Just Divorced and Ready to Party.
Here’s a guy who’s ready for the good life. Finally free and looking to sample a variety of feminine fare, this man doesn’t have the capacity for a relationship and will want nothing to do with obligation or responsibility. If a man doesn’t call you regularly, keep appointments, offers no excuses or too many, he might be the “party” type. Don’t get involved or you may wind up as the flavor of the month.

4) Lives with Wife or Ex Wife.
While there may be some legal and financial reasons to remain in the marital house, do you really want to date a man who is still sharing the same roof with his wife? The possibility looms that he might find himself back in her bed. Even if there isn’t a chance for reconciliation, he’s still involved deeper than you’ll want.

Also, if you can’t go to his home because “she’s” there, the relationship can feel lopsided. You might start wondering if he’s spending time at your place because he enjoys it or because it’s a great escape from his difficult living situation. For these reasons, it’s best to date a man who is already out on his own.

Amazing Abundance of Available Men
In closing, the most important thing to remember is that there is an amazing abundance of single men. Right now in the US, there are 42 million adults over 40 who are single and nearly half are men! Why fall for an unavailable man who isn’t likely to give you the love you deserve? When you start to encounter red flags, pay attention and consider looking for a new man who has an open heart and plenty of love to share.

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How to Make a Dynamite First Impression When Dating

31 August 2008

Huntresses, you may well ask, “Is makeup all that important?” Let’s go to the studies. Researchers asked men to talk with six different women who sometimes wore makeup, sometimes didn’t. Their study, “Lipstick as a Determiner of First Impressions of Personality,” revealed that the male opinion of each woman was very different when she wore lipstick.
More about this will come!

A man and a woman getting to know each other are like two little animals sniffing each other out. We don’t have tails that wag or hair that bristles, but we do have eyes that narrow or widen. We have hands that flash knuckles or subconsciously soften in the palms-up “I submit” position. There are dozens of other “involuntary” reactions that take place in the first few moments of interaction. The good news is that we can learn to control these presumed involuntary reactions.

The moment you set eyes on each other, your Potential Love Partner subconsciously reads the subtleties of your body language. In these first crucial moments, he or she can unconsciously resolve to try for romantic takeoff or abort thoughts of love. His or her mind then becomes computer-like, and your PLP continues to make rapid decisions about you during your first conversation, your first date.

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