What’s one of the stupidest mistakes men make on first dates with single women? It’s spending too much money on trying to impress them.

Some guys go to the trouble and expense of renting a limo, giving her a dozen red roses, going to the most expensive restaurant in town, or taking her to a resort, etc.

Please guys, save your hard-earned money and don’t do these things to impress women on a first date. First dates are solely for the purpose of getting to know each other, share common interests, to see if you’re compatible, and to see if there’s any chemistry.

A lot of guys blow all this money on first dates that don’t even work out. A lot of times you just don’t hit it off and never see each other again.

Here’s the Best Way to Invest Your Money for a Good Time First Date
While we are on the subject of first dates, let’s talk about where to go on a first date. The most boring thing you can do is go out to eat and go see a movie. There at the restaurant you are trying to eat and think of something to talk about. Then you end up at a movie where you don’t talk at all. Plus, you risk seeing a movie that’s stupid and boring.

Let me suggest the best place to go for a first date. Go to a comedy club and I will tell you why:

This is the easiest way to entertain your date and make a good impression. Guess who’s going to be entertaining your date and showing her a good time? The comedians!

They are going to make her laugh and you will be laughing together. And the good part about it is that she will look back on the date and feel that she really had a good time. The spirit of laughter is so good for the soul too. As a matter of fact, I think that all couples should go to a comedy club at least once a month.

P.S. - I would advise you not to give expensive gifts on a first date. Wait until you get to know each other better and there’s a mutual attraction towards each other.

This article written by Don Diebel (Americas #1 Singles
Expert). If you would like more free dating tips on how to
successfully meet, date, attract, and become intimate with
women, please visit his website at: http://www.getgirls.com.

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This week we will focus on what not to do and say when out on a first date with single women. If you are making these mistakes, it can hurt your chances for getting a second date. And if there is no second date, so much for love, sex, romance, or a potential relationship.

Listed here are what not to do when out on a first date with single women:

• Do not talk about any of your personal problems. This is not appropriate with someone you hardly know.
• Don’t act desperate. This date is just for fun and getting to know each other. Keep it light-hearted and don’t act as if you are auditioning for a lifetime commitment. Don’t cling to her and talk about your future relationship with her.
• For a first date, don’t go to a nightclub or loud bar. They are too noisy for conversation and it’s hard to get to know each other if you can’t hear each other.
• Don’t talk about anything negative at all. Keep everything you talk about upbeat and positive.
• Don’t get drunk! This really turns women off and makes a bad impression. Don’t drink at all or limit your drinking to a couple of drinks.
• Here’s a real no no. You see a couple of your buddies and you leave her to go talk to them. You ignore her and just leave her hanging while you shoot the bull with your buddies. This is very inconsiderate and downright rude. The proper thing to do is just introduce your buddies and keep your conversation with them brief. After all you are out on a date with her, not your buddies.
• Don’t try to analyze her problems.
• If you ask for a second date, don’t say, “Would you like to get together next week and do something.” Instead, be specific about the date. When, where, and what time.
• Don’t discuss any of your family or monetary problems. Whatever you do, don’t tell her how broke you are and how you are heavily in debt.
• On a first date, dress conservatively. This is no time to wear any provocative or sleazy clothes.
• Don’t bitch about your previous girlfriends or ex-wives on how they mistreated you, dumped you, cheated on you, took you to the cleaners on child support, etc.
• Don’t pretend to be funny or humorous. If you are putting on an act, it will come across to her as phony.
• Never, never ask for a second date like this: “I’m not doing anything on Saturday night, are you?”
• Don’t focus on your health problems or ailments.
• If you are taking medication, excuse yourself and go to the bathroom and take your pills. Don’t take them in front of her.
• Don’t brag about yourself and your accomplishments. Focus on her and her interests.
• Don’t pick your nose or scratch or readjust your crotch.
• Don’t stare at her breasts. If she has nice breasts and wearing a tight-fitting top or revealing some nice cleavage, I know it’s going to hard for you not to glance down at her breasts. But, staring is going to make her feel uncomfortable and she will get the impression that all you are interested in is taking her to bed.

I know this is a rather long list of things to remember, but I can assure you, if you avoid making these mistakes it greatly increases your chances of making a favorable impression on your first date with single women and she will be interested in going on more dates with you which can lead to lots of fun, sex, and romance.

This article written by Don Diebel (Americas #1 Singles
Expert). If you would like more free dating tips on how to
successfully meet, date, attract, and become intimate with
women, please visit his website at: http://www.getgirls.com.

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How long do you spend getting ready for a night out? At a guess I would say that if you’re a woman you can probably spend 1 hour upwards preening and titivating and if you’re a man you can be showered, shaved and out of the door within 20 minutes (unless, of course, you’re a metro-sexual in which case you probably take longer than a woman!).

Now let me ask you how long you would spend (or have spent) writing a profile for an online dating site? Less than 5 minutes, possibly 10 minutes maximum?

When you consider that you literally have minutes to impress someone and stand out from the rest in the online dating scene, don’t you agree that more time and effort should be put into writing an online profile?

If you are an online dater, I’m sure you will agree with me that when you are searching for a partner online you will first of all look at the profiles with photos and, secondly, you will look at the profiles where people have taken the time to write something about themselves. So if you have no photo and/or an incomplete and uninformative profile, don’t be surprised if you inbox isn’t full to the brim with messages!

I’m going to share a few tips with you to get you started writing an eye-catching profile. Once you’ve read them take some time to think about what you are going to write and jot down some quick notes before hitting the keyboard.

1. Grab a friend

   If you don’t like writing about yourself or think you are going to get writer’s block it’s a good idea to enlist the help of a friend; the kind of friend who is always saying to you “I can’t understand why you’re still single, you’re such a catch”. Ask your friend what your star qualities are and he or she will come up with a million and one positive things about you which you would have never thought of or dared to say about yourself.

2. Strike a pose

   The most effective way to get noticed online, is to include a photo. Choose a clear photo that shows in your best light and preferably smiling - it makes much better viewing!

3. Choose a fun username

   This is the name which you will be known as by members on the dating site. I would advise you to use a name other than your real name to remain anonymous. Try and choose a name that is fun and reflects your personality, i.e. Sporty Sam or Disco Queen. Do not use a name which is sexually provocative or offensive.

4. Captivate your audience

   Make your profile really stand out so that any person reading it will think “Wow, I have to get to know this person!”

   Online dating sites have made it easy for you when completing your profile by providing drop down menus for basic questions such as your appearance, lifestyle, hobbies but you will also be given additional space to write something yourself. Use this space wisely to provide a more detailed description about your personality, your interests and what you are looking for. The key is to be confident and talk positively about yourself without coming across bigheaded.

5. Don’t leave an empty space

   If you feel you have covered everything by answering the profile questions - please do not leave the additional space blank or write “ask me”, “tell you later” or “I don’t know what to say”. Members will see your profile and think you’re either not serious about dating or that if you can’t be bothered to put some effort into writing a profile you will have the same approach in a relationship - effortless! Instead extend on the information already provided, for example, if you have stated you like travelling talk about some of the places you have visited.

6. Ask questions

   If there is a particular place you visited and fell in love with, ask anyone who has been there to get in touch with you so you can reminisce together. Asking a question in your profile makes it easy for other members to respond to.

7. Be Honest

   Don’t lie about interests; you will get found out! For example, don’t say you love long walks in the countryside if you really like to dance the night away in nightclubs every weekend. You’ll attract the wrong person and waste both of your time.

   As with any other kind of dating, it is always best to be honest from the start so answer all questions honestly and finding your perfect match will be much easier!

8. Show your funny side

   I think if you can make someone laugh or someone makes you laugh, you’re on the path to a good relationship. Show people that you have a sense of humour, e.g. talk about a scene from one of your all time favourite comedies and you may strike a chord with someone else who found the same thing just as funny as you.

9. Dream a little

   Write about your dreams and ambitions. If your dream is to travel the world but you haven’t quite got round to it there may be someone out there who would like to share this experience with you. If you’ve been lucky enough to fulfil your dreams, share your story with other members.

10. Don’t mention the ex!

    Ok, so you may have just come out of a relationship and be feeling sad and lonely but don’t write about it. It will put a lot of people off and you may come across desperate, which is not an attractive trait. Make online dating a new start for you and promise yourself not to dwell on past relationships.

11. Your expectations

    What are your expectations from joining an online dating site? Tell people the kind of relationship you are hoping to find but don’t say you are looking for marriage if you are really looking for a casual fling and vice versa. Again, you will waste both of your time.

12. Write a chapter, not a book

    By this I mean, don’t tell your whole life story in your profile. I encourage you to provide as much information as possible about yourself but use short bursts of information, sectioned by paragraphs, rather than writing a long essay so whoever is reading it is intrigued to find out more about you.

13. Be safe

    Finally, do not include any personal information in your profile, e.g. your e-mail address, home address, work address or telephone number. A reputable dating site will remove any personal information before it appears live on site; this is to ensure that they provide you with a safe online dating environment.
    

Once you’ve completed your profile, read through it or ask a trusted friend to read through it and ask, would you reply to this person? If yes, it’s all systems go. If no, look at the areas where it can be improved until you’ve created that winning profile. It may take longer than 5 or 10 minutes but the results that will show in your inbox will be worth it!

Alison Edwards runs http://www.SnappyDates.com/ a UK based dating site. If you are stuck for ideas about your online profile, members can write to Alison at Alison@SnappyDates.com for advice on how they can improve their profile.

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