By now, it is pretty well accepted that women
like a man who is a little bit cocky. If you are
interested in dating more women, then pay
close attention.

It’s true. If a man is confident, bordering on
cocky, he will present himself as a challenge,
and we all know women love challenges.

Other times, a man can go too far with this
behavior and make a woman feel so insecure, she
feels underqualified.

Sometimes going to far with any technique, no
matter how good, will not get your desired
results. In the case of acting too arrogant, a
woman will sometimes feel so rejected, she starts
to pull away.

What happened is, you triggered her
“Auto-Rejection Mechanism”.

She interpreted one of your actions as rejection,
and as such, she responded in a way to shield
herself from further rejection.

Metaphorically speaking, you stuck in the knife,
and she was merely attemtping to prevent you from
twisting it.

It’s a natural response to that type of thing.

It may look like she’s shutting you down, and
isn’t attracted, but in reality it’s a completly
rational response to your mis-callibration.

There are a couple of very common situations in
which a woman’s auto-rejection mechanism is
triggered.

These are:

1. Using cocky humor in a miscallibrated or overly
serious way.

It is very important to blend your humor with a
very warm vibe. Your body language and tonality
should be implying that you are busting on her in
a very caring way. Oh, and be sure to smile.

2. Showing disapproval when you are in your
screening and qualification phase.

If she is attracted and at the point where she is
talking about herself in an attempt to win you
over, let her. Show approval and be genuinely
interested in what she has to say. Don’t punish
her for opening up to you and trying to win you
over.

3. Creating an opportunity for physical escalation
and not following through.

This is very common, and actually we get a LOT of
questions about this phenomenon. Sometimes a guy
will have a girl ready to go, ready for sex, and
he will either escalate too slowly or not at all.
Out of the blue, the woman stops returning his
calls.

If you produce a window of opportunity for
physical escalation, make it happen.

4. Not calling her after sex, and expecting her to
follow up.

After sex, sometimes a guy will feel as if he has
won, and a girl should now persue him.
Unfortunately, that’s not the case.

If a woman opens up to you physically, she needs
to be comforted in a way that doesn’t make you
seem like a player. (That is, if you wish to make
the relatioship go further than a one night
stand…)

If you feel you have gotten into this type of
cycle, do not fear. There are remedies for it.

1. Spot it early.

If you notice that she may be pulling away
because of underqualification, that is a sure
sign of the Auto-Rejection Mechanism.

2. Falsely disqualify yourself.

Once you know that she is definitely attracted
but a bit scared of being rejected by you, tell
her something like this:

“You know, I think I may be too much of a bad
guy, and the last thing I want to do is break
your heart.”

This will set up a challenge for her to conquer
and will cause her to argue the other side of
your point. She will once again become
interested.

3. Qualify her for not playing games.

Tell her:

“You know, it’s really refreshing to know a girl
who isn’t into playing games with guys. You seem
very up front, honest and confident in going
after those things that you really want.”

This will give her a bit more confidence in
showing her interest in you. It will also stop
her in her tracks from playing hard to get.

Using those techniques will give you a safety net
for going overboard with cocky humor, which seems
to be a very common sticking point these days.

Vincent DiCarlo is a world famous dating coach. His experience comes from years of training pickup artists in underground seduction lairs across the East Coast. He currently runs theApproach: The Science of Social Chemistry for the Modern Gentleman, with his partner Sebastian Drake, and teaches men of all ages and backgrounds to meet, attract and seduce the most beautiful women of the world.

Vincent’s full bio is here: Vincent DiCarlo: Master of Social Dynamics

Find out what your skill level is with a free Personal Evaluation by visiting: Attract Women: theApproach Seduction Workshops

Vincent recently reviewed the book ‘The Game’. You can read his review at: Neil Strauss’ The Game Review

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I will quickly get into these two dating tips, so you can put them into action!

1. Women sense clingy men

Women know when you want something more than a good time. They sense when your coming on to strong. Try being laid back more, and take things as they come. Women are amazingly intuitive. When you call constantly to check on her, ask her how the day is going, it sends the message TOO MUCH. Just imagine a woman calling you, that you weren’t that interested in, over and over again. This is the reason women sometimes don’t call you back after a wonderful date. Lean back and take things slowly. Don’t call her all the time, and give her space.

2. Women sense a fraud

Women know when your not being yourself. They sense a fraud. So when you cover something up, trying not to be yourself, they notice it. Always treat women with respect, but give them the space they need. Change isn’t a fun thing to go through for most women. So respect it, and never force something. You may be willing to jump into a marriage after the first date, but they usually aren’t. Especially when they are in high demand.

Treat women always with respect and you will be treated with respect in return. Always be yourself, and get on with your own life, this will make you more attractive to everyone you come in contact with.

Donovan runs his own blog - The Attraction Chronicles. He reviews books and dating material to help men get ahead with women.

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I’ve often thought about the topic of why women leave men. Especially when the woman seems happy, and the guy is such a ‘nice’ guy. I have recently come to the realization of why women leave men. And I’m going to share it with you, so you can prevent it.

The main all-encompassing principle is that the male stops being attractive. Let’s get into some specific examples from the most common reason to the least.

Big Number 1. Clingy

The man is too obsessive. He hangs around her to much, and seeks her attention CONSTANTLY. This is a huge negative, especially for a woman that has so much offer, usually she has a life. She needs space, she also needs companionship. Make sure you supply that, and give her her independence.

Close Number 2. Approval Seeking

You’re doing those things that you know you shouldn’t. Like: What do you want to do tonight hunny? or I really wanted to see that movie, but I guess we can see yours… This is prime wussy behavior. STOP IT. Beautiful, interesting women will not tolerate this behavior for very long. I guarantee in 98% of situations you didn’t start out that way. The David Deangelo range of materials actually talks in-depth about this topic. It was interesting to find out the ways I was ruining my chances in more ways than one which I wasn’t even aware of.

Further down 3. Jealously

Don’t ever be jealous. If she’s with you, she’s with YOU. You would hope she is constantly being flirted with around you. She’s obviously hot, good job! Control that emotion and funnel it into humor, by occasionally ‘negging’ (slight self-esteem hit) her. Say something after a man says, “You’re so lucky to be with a woman that great…”, reply by saying something like, “I know, imagine how much she had to work to get me!”

Almost to the end 4: Boring and Predictable

So many guys are boring and predictable. Don’t answer you’re phone 1 out of 10 times, just to have her think more about you. (It works on us doesn’t it guys?) Do stuff spontaneously with her, that’s interesting and unpredictable, like go snowboarding if you’ve never been, or skydive one day, or if you never dress up and go to an expensive restaurant - do that!

Mix and match it up so it’s interesting for both of you. Also, be different in personality, be nice some times, be a little mean other times but respectful. Try being really busy and not clingy if you’re always available for her. DYD talks extensively about this.

The final 5: Not doing what worked.

In the beginning you got her! What did you do? How did you act around her? Forget what relationship books say, do what worked! Remember the old saying, “If you keep doing what you’ve always done, you’re going to keep getting what you’ve always gotten!” That works for good results as well. So keep it up! Don’t call her back in a second if that’s not what you did originally.

Ok, you get the point of this post. I’m passionate about these things, because I know they MATTER. They really EFFECT how a relationship works.

Women have a HUGE amount of options, don’t give her the chance to consider them when she’s already got the best one.

You need a lot more information about dating, and attracting the type of woman you want! Donovan has setup a blog called The Attraction Chronicles, it has loads of free articles helping men achieve dramatic success with women.

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