The reason is that often when a man is out on a date, his body is there, but his soul is not - which means his mind and his will are elsewhere. And, since most men have difficulty thinking and feeling at the same time, on the first few dates he’s not likely to be thinking about you as a whole person. Rather, what he’s mostly feeling is lust, and he’s concentrating primarily on getting you into the sack. Later, when he’s alone and no longer eyeing your body, he can begin to think about you as a human being. It is then that he may decide that, for whatever reason, you and he are not right for each other. In other words, once he is alone, he has to distill everything he’s learned about you to decide whether or not to call back.

Waiting is hell, but I maintain that a man is not gone unless it has been eight weeks, because it can take that log for him to process a decision.

For four weeks, a man can usually keep himself busy dating, working, and living without you. But if he is really interested, somewhere between six and eight weeks he will begin to miss you, and then he will call.

Can you call him? No, not if you’re calling to ask him out. If he left something at your house, sure you can then call and arrange to have it returned, and to give him the opportunity to ask you out. If you’re planning to attend an event that you think he might enjoy, you can ask him to escort you and join a group of people. If you’re having a party, you can invite him. But you must not ask him out on a date unless you are prepared to be the man in the relationship.

So when you go out on a date, put his name down on a calendar. If he doesn’t call in eight weeks, he doesn’t like you. But by that time, you are not likely to care.

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I’ve often thought about the topic of why women leave men. Especially when the woman seems happy, and the guy is such a ‘nice’ guy. I have recently come to the realization of why women leave men. And I’m going to share it with you, so you can prevent it.

The main all-encompassing principle is that the male stops being attractive. Let’s get into some specific examples from the most common reason to the least.

Big Number 1. Clingy

The man is too obsessive. He hangs around her to much, and seeks her attention CONSTANTLY. This is a huge negative, especially for a woman that has so much offer, usually she has a life. She needs space, she also needs companionship. Make sure you supply that, and give her her independence.

Close Number 2. Approval Seeking

You’re doing those things that you know you shouldn’t. Like: What do you want to do tonight hunny? or I really wanted to see that movie, but I guess we can see yours… This is prime wussy behavior. STOP IT. Beautiful, interesting women will not tolerate this behavior for very long. I guarantee in 98% of situations you didn’t start out that way. The David Deangelo range of materials actually talks in-depth about this topic. It was interesting to find out the ways I was ruining my chances in more ways than one which I wasn’t even aware of.

Further down 3. Jealously

Don’t ever be jealous. If she’s with you, she’s with YOU. You would hope she is constantly being flirted with around you. She’s obviously hot, good job! Control that emotion and funnel it into humor, by occasionally ‘negging’ (slight self-esteem hit) her. Say something after a man says, “You’re so lucky to be with a woman that great…”, reply by saying something like, “I know, imagine how much she had to work to get me!”

Almost to the end 4: Boring and Predictable

So many guys are boring and predictable. Don’t answer you’re phone 1 out of 10 times, just to have her think more about you. (It works on us doesn’t it guys?) Do stuff spontaneously with her, that’s interesting and unpredictable, like go snowboarding if you’ve never been, or skydive one day, or if you never dress up and go to an expensive restaurant - do that!

Mix and match it up so it’s interesting for both of you. Also, be different in personality, be nice some times, be a little mean other times but respectful. Try being really busy and not clingy if you’re always available for her. DYD talks extensively about this.

The final 5: Not doing what worked.

In the beginning you got her! What did you do? How did you act around her? Forget what relationship books say, do what worked! Remember the old saying, “If you keep doing what you’ve always done, you’re going to keep getting what you’ve always gotten!” That works for good results as well. So keep it up! Don’t call her back in a second if that’s not what you did originally.

Ok, you get the point of this post. I’m passionate about these things, because I know they MATTER. They really EFFECT how a relationship works.

Women have a HUGE amount of options, don’t give her the chance to consider them when she’s already got the best one.

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Generally the most important step when dating someone is the anticipation moment which refers to your own decisions and also the prepairing for dating someone. And as the most important aspects are also the most difficult ones, people generally leave them aside or neglect them and this always proves to be harmful for a relationship. This is the exact purpose of this article: to make people understand the importance of this first prepairing for dating and to propose some ways to turn it into something unbelievable:

1) The right state of mind

Turning to optimism can have a decisive effect for meeting your soulmate.A self-assured person, a confident one generally attracts many persons as these are qualities saught by everybody.Shyness and pesimism give the impression of a troubled person who is not willing to meet someone not to mention dating that person. That is why you should always give the sensation of a person who is eager to live new experiences.

2) Beware of your priorities

You should always be sure of what you want: just dating or meet your soulmate?This awareness or clarity in your thoughts preserves an equilibrium between hope and fear. Decide what you most want from a long term relionship: look over the ones who are not to be changed and the ones which can be compromised.

3) Always preserve your values

Become aware of your values which cannot be changed by any means. If you will try to forget about them for the sake of the person you are dating, you wll encounter lots of problems as you can’t escape your personality and thoughts for a relationship.Then see if the relationship can respect these values or not.

4) That’s me, alright!

What is it that you want? What are your needs? What makes you happy?
what are your ideals and purposes in life?What are your strong and week points?What are your fears? You should always be very specific about your options and needs so that you can get help from the persons who love you.Being specific and showing exactly what you want can become like a magnet for possible’candidates’ not only because of your tastes but also because of your preciseness.

5) Being a little selfish can be a wonderful thing!

Do what you want and what makes you happy.This means taking care of yourself and paying a lot of attention to your person. If you are happy you are prone to make the others happy too.

6) Don’t say no to your friends!

Don’t refuse help from your friends but first make sure that they are real friends, not the type who would stab you behind your back. You could recognize your true friends by their opinions which might not always be similar to your’s but are intended to help you. Knowing thet you have reliable friends can help you a lot with your attitude.

7)The outside mirror technique

Others can become your outside mirror. You can see many reflection according to your state of mind and not only…You can become aware of your flaws and acknowledge your qualities.You can also observe if you are capable of making people laugh or happy and in this, you can find other qualities.Awareness enables choice.

Forget about the past!

Forget about your past and especially your past relationships as they can do harm to your present relationship. Sometimes memories should be forgotten as they can ensnare people.Nothing can be changed from your past so there is no time for regrets or ‘what if’s’.It is always beneficial to start over.

9) Everything is so fascinating about you!

It is natural that you always remember about the life you had before dating> Maybe this is what attracted the person you are dating: your relationship with your friends, your commitment and passions.Don’t try to change or forgetabout your old habbits. They characterise you and what makes you fascinating.

10) So this is it!

It is claimed that relationships are what shapes our personality: all kind of relationships and experience as well.

These are basically the patterns by which we can gain a wonderfull relationship. I am sure that everybody knows them but they have to be highlined sometimes.It is the only recipe for success in a relationship. Be youself and know that!

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