The first thing I want to do immediately is to give you a
CONCRETE, STEP BY STEP PLAN that you can immediately use to go out right now and start meeting more women.

Now, most guys have it all wrong when it comes to meeting women.. Let me clear up the confusion with 2 “Wisdom Nuggets”:

WISDOM NUGGET #1: Most normal guys UNDER-ESTIMATE
how many women they need to SEE and MEET in order
to develop their approach skills. And it doesn’t
matter if your goal is to find that one perfect
woman. In order to meet her when you finally
have a chance, you need good approach skills.

WISDOM NUGGET #2: If you’re not SEEING women (if
they don’t come into your field of vision), then
you’re not MEETING women. So this is a critical
first step. The more women you see, the more
opportunities you’ll have to develop and refine
your approach skills, get dates, etc.

The first step to seeing and meeting more women is
going where there are plenty of them. Duh.

So I’m going to give you 3 of my favorite places
to meet women:

1) SHOPPING MALLS

Ah, shopping malls. Such a terrible place to meet
women. I mean, look around, there’s only like 9
or 10 women for every 1 man walking around the
place. Lol …

Yes, there are tons of hot women working AND
shopping there.

Women flock to shopping malls like plastic
surgeons flock to Michael Jackson’s mansion.

2) RESTAURANTS

The idea with restaurants is that if you’re going
to eat out you might as well do it in a “Target
Rich Environment” (a place with lots of women).
You can turn just your average lunch into an
opportunity to walk home with several numbers of
interesting females.

And if you look around you will start to find many
restaurants in your area that consistently have
quite a few women eating (and working) there.

Larger restaurants obviously have more people and
so more women than smaller ones, so eat there.

And when you’re being seated by the hostess, see
if she can seat you in a place where you can have
a good view of the female traffic going in and
out, so when a woman that interests you enters
you’ll have easy access to do your approach.

So far nothing new, right? Pretty common sense.

Well here’s something I bet you don’t normally do:

Find a restaurant where there’s a lot of walking
traffic RIGHT OUTSIDE. Grab a table where you
can see all these people walking by. If there’s a
patio, that’s perfect.

When you see a hottie walk by, leave your food and
approach her.

This is quite a ROMANTIC move, because you can
HONESTLY say,

“Excuse me. Hi. I don’t know exactly how to say
this, but I was right in the middle of my lunch,
and I saw you walking and had to tell you you are
absolutely … beautiful.”

What this does is it puts you in a position where
1) you are being 100% HONEST when you say this
(so it’s not a “line”) and

2) it’s a NATURALLY ROMANTIC move to make.

(By the way, if you combine these first 2 places
to meet women what you get is: restaurants in
shopping malls where you can see the foot traffic
walk by. Excellent.)

3) CONCERTS, FAIRS, AND OTHER COMMUNITY EVENTS

These are all great places to meet women because
every woman there is out to have a good time.
They’re not in a rush to get to work or some
other place, so it’s not like you’re approach is
interrupting them from anything important.

This makes it just that much easier for them to
be open to having a random conversation with a
guy who has his act together.

(Oh, by the way, that guy is YOU in case you
haven’t figured it out yet).

***TIMING IS CRITICAL***

You visit your favorite restaurant on Tuesday at
lunch. But because it’s not crowded at that time,
there’s not even a single hottie. The same
restaurant on Friday evenings at 7 pm is full of
pretty women.

You go to the mall at 6 pm on a Tuesday and it’s a
desert. That same mall at 2 pm on a Saturday is an
oasis full of hot women.

So if you visit a Target Rich Environment but
there’s not many beautiful women there, ask
yourself if your timing is off.

Here’s a secret: Ask people who would know when
the most crowded time is. At a shopping mall,
restaurant, or grocery store you could ask any of
the employees. They would know. Just ask them,
“When is this place the busiest, anyways?”

Or to save even more time, you can always CALL
AHEAD to a new place you want to check out, and
ask someone over the phone when’s the busiest
time. You’ll be surprised how much info some
people will give you.

Now, some of you are thinking, “Man, I already
know this stuff.”

Maybe you do.

But are you DOING it?

Here’s an easy way to tell:

Have you approached 5 or more women in the last 7
days?

Seriously. Think about it.

Have you?

If not, then although you “know” this stuff,
you’re not DOING it.

That’s the trap that most “normal” guys fall into.
They sit back and criticize, but if you look at
what they’re DOING it’s clear they’re not taking
enough ACTION to ever get their skills to a level
where they’ll have the success with women they’re
looking for.

A success that some of you right now believe is
impossible …

Well, it’s not impossible … IF YOU DO THE WORK.

So, here’s your HOMEWORK ASSIGNMENT:

Go out in the next 48 hours and visit at least 2
Target Rich Environments. Could be a mall. Could
be a restaurant. Could be another place you
thought of on your own where there’s likely to be
ladies present.

And all I want you to do is 1 thing:

1) COUNT how many pretty women you see in the next
48 hours. This includes those you see at the
Target Rich Environments AND any other women you
see anywhere, like on the street, in stores,
supermarkets, wherever.

So 48 hours from now, if you’re Bill from Illinois,
Gary from Australia, or whoever from wherever,
you’ll be able to say, “Kev, I was able to see 17
hot women in the last 48 hours” or whatever number
it may be.

It’ll be a little competition … WHO CAN SEE THE
MOST HOT WOMEN IN THE NEXT 48 HOURS …

So do yourself a favor and do your homework.
It’s basically checking out pretty women … how
much better can a homework assignment get???!!!

Your Dating Coach,

Kevin B.

Oh, and by the way, if you want the FULL SCOOP
of where you can meet pretty women (there are
over 15 more locations I left out of this email,
as well as great strategies for meeting women
online and at speed dating events), then you
should check out my Breakthrough Dating Audio
CD Program.

In it you’ll also find specifically what to say to
women (and how to say it) when you visit these
places so you come across as a mature guy who has
his act together, rather than a nervous wuss or a
creep or a guy who’s just trying too hard.

Plus, it’s fully guaranteed to help you or your money
back, and if you have a credit card you can even
try it for 30 days for just a buck.

Check it out here: http://www.anywomananywhere.com/offerlist.htm

And if you’re one of the few who STILL haven’t
downloaded my eBook “Any Woman, Anywhere” you need
to go to do that right now.

It’s a great introduction to the principles I
teach…you can be reading it in
just 3 minutes from right now.

Check it out here: http://www.anywomananywhere.com/mail/1.htm

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By now, it is pretty well accepted that women
like a man who is a little bit cocky. If you are
interested in dating more women, then pay
close attention.

It’s true. If a man is confident, bordering on
cocky, he will present himself as a challenge,
and we all know women love challenges.

Other times, a man can go too far with this
behavior and make a woman feel so insecure, she
feels underqualified.

Sometimes going to far with any technique, no
matter how good, will not get your desired
results. In the case of acting too arrogant, a
woman will sometimes feel so rejected, she starts
to pull away.

What happened is, you triggered her
“Auto-Rejection Mechanism”.

She interpreted one of your actions as rejection,
and as such, she responded in a way to shield
herself from further rejection.

Metaphorically speaking, you stuck in the knife,
and she was merely attemtping to prevent you from
twisting it.

It’s a natural response to that type of thing.

It may look like she’s shutting you down, and
isn’t attracted, but in reality it’s a completly
rational response to your mis-callibration.

There are a couple of very common situations in
which a woman’s auto-rejection mechanism is
triggered.

These are:

1. Using cocky humor in a miscallibrated or overly
serious way.

It is very important to blend your humor with a
very warm vibe. Your body language and tonality
should be implying that you are busting on her in
a very caring way. Oh, and be sure to smile.

2. Showing disapproval when you are in your
screening and qualification phase.

If she is attracted and at the point where she is
talking about herself in an attempt to win you
over, let her. Show approval and be genuinely
interested in what she has to say. Don’t punish
her for opening up to you and trying to win you
over.

3. Creating an opportunity for physical escalation
and not following through.

This is very common, and actually we get a LOT of
questions about this phenomenon. Sometimes a guy
will have a girl ready to go, ready for sex, and
he will either escalate too slowly or not at all.
Out of the blue, the woman stops returning his
calls.

If you produce a window of opportunity for
physical escalation, make it happen.

4. Not calling her after sex, and expecting her to
follow up.

After sex, sometimes a guy will feel as if he has
won, and a girl should now persue him.
Unfortunately, that’s not the case.

If a woman opens up to you physically, she needs
to be comforted in a way that doesn’t make you
seem like a player. (That is, if you wish to make
the relatioship go further than a one night
stand…)

If you feel you have gotten into this type of
cycle, do not fear. There are remedies for it.

1. Spot it early.

If you notice that she may be pulling away
because of underqualification, that is a sure
sign of the Auto-Rejection Mechanism.

2. Falsely disqualify yourself.

Once you know that she is definitely attracted
but a bit scared of being rejected by you, tell
her something like this:

“You know, I think I may be too much of a bad
guy, and the last thing I want to do is break
your heart.”

This will set up a challenge for her to conquer
and will cause her to argue the other side of
your point. She will once again become
interested.

3. Qualify her for not playing games.

Tell her:

“You know, it’s really refreshing to know a girl
who isn’t into playing games with guys. You seem
very up front, honest and confident in going
after those things that you really want.”

This will give her a bit more confidence in
showing her interest in you. It will also stop
her in her tracks from playing hard to get.

Using those techniques will give you a safety net
for going overboard with cocky humor, which seems
to be a very common sticking point these days.

Vincent DiCarlo is a world famous dating coach. His experience comes from years of training pickup artists in underground seduction lairs across the East Coast. He currently runs theApproach: The Science of Social Chemistry for the Modern Gentleman, with his partner Sebastian Drake, and teaches men of all ages and backgrounds to meet, attract and seduce the most beautiful women of the world.

Vincent’s full bio is here: Vincent DiCarlo: Master of Social Dynamics

Find out what your skill level is with a free Personal Evaluation by visiting: Attract Women: theApproach Seduction Workshops

Vincent recently reviewed the book ‘The Game’. You can read his review at: Neil Strauss’ The Game Review

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In life I think it’s fair to say that women drew the short straw enduring monthly periods, PMT, giving birth and the menopause; all producing more hormones than she, and anyone within arms length distance, can cope with.

But if she is 30 something and single the joy of being a woman doesn’t stop there! She is in a race against time to meet a man (preferably sexy!), fall in love, get him to fall in love her, move in together, get married, have a baby (the latter two in no particular order as long as they happen!) and live happily ever after.

The reality though is that many women diarise “settling down” for their early 30s; devoting their 20s to getting a career, travelling, socialising and having fun. There are also the ones who, despite actively dating in search of their perfect partner since early adulthood, simply haven’t found “the one”.

After revelling in her 20s footloose and fancy free, from the day she hits 30 her carefree attitude screeches to an abrupt halt; Mother Nature is suddenly occupying all her thoughts and her biological clock is ticking getting faster and louder as each day, month and year passes still with no sign of “the one” entering her life.

Of course, for the 30 something single men of the world this is not a concern; nature gave them the choice to put fatherhood on hold, worry free, until their 40s, 50s even 60s. So is this why 30 something women find a gap in the dating scene and are unable to find someone of a similar age to settle down with? Are the 30 something men busy dating but staying single until later in life because they know that when the time is right (for them) reproducing won’t be a problem?

It’s a sad fact that society portrays 30 something single men and women completely different. 30 something single women are labelled “out of date goods left on the shelves” whereas 30 something single men are given a pat on the back and told to enjoy their freedom while they can. Although TV programmes like Sex in the City and Desperate Housewives have helped to change peoples opinions of single women over 30, the fact remains that if she wants children the natural way (i.e. without a sperm donor) she needs a man.

So with no sight of a man on the horizon, she feels under pressure not only from herself but also from those around her to get on the dating scene and meet the father-to-be of her children. Her parents will say, “Why can’t she meet a good man and settle down?” her friends will say, “Shall we fix her up on a date with [John]?” and then there are the sniggering colleagues who will say, “She must be a lesbian!”

Whilst some of them may have her best interests at heart, she should not feel forced into a relationship to please everyone else. The problem she faces however is that, as a woman of the world, she knows exactly what qualities she is looking for in her partner and her standards are set so high that the men she dates often don’t make the grade.

What she may have to do therefore is accept that not everyone is perfect and compromise on her “tick list”. She needs to put things in perspective and ask herself if it really matters that he doesn’t own a flash car or that he wears awful shoes. (It can sometimes be non-important things why women will reject a man.) She should also be careful not to discuss marriage and babies in the early dating stages; men are aware that a women in her 30s is looking for someone to father her children and if she comes across desperate, she will have most men running for the hills!

Ok, so she knows what she wants and she’s willing to compromise but where will a 30 something single woman meet the love of her life? Is it at work, through friends, in a bar/club, at a party or an online dating agency?

Whilst it is recommended to explore all methods of dating in order to increase your opportunities, not all of them will appeal to everyone. Take a 35 year old friend of mine for instance whom recently became single. It’s not that she didn’t want to settle down in her 20s, she just didn’t meet the right man. She has, however, reached the conclusion that the likelihood of meeting someone in a bar or club who is potential “marriage material” is highly unlikely.

Whilst the majority of the 30 something single men she meets are happy to flirt, probably even happier to take her to bed, they do not want to commit to a relationship and jeopardise their freedom. Other rejects consist of men already in relationships looking for no strings fun or toy boys looking to put an older woman notch on their bedpost.

Only recently she dated someone whom she met in a bar who told her he was 27 years old (still younger than her but an acceptable age she thought). If I say that they became intimate very quickly, you’ll know what I mean! Whilst this was not something she would normally do, she felt a connection and it had been a while so she thought “Hell, why not!” Afterwards, she felt it only right to tell him her age. “You do know how old I am don’t you?” she asked. “About 26/27?” he replied.” (He certainly knew where his bread was buttered!), “No, I’m 35″. “Well I suppose it’s only fair I’m honest with you too “, he continued, “I’m actually only 19″. “19!” she exclaimed. Immediately there was no future in this relationship and her hopes of finding “the one” had once again been dashed.

Turn the tables round (him 35, her 19) and it could have been a different story. but that’s for another day.

If you are experiencing similar problems finding a partner, why not give online dating a try? You will find men and women of all ages whose profiles will provide details of their age and whether they are looking for fun, love or marriage so you know from the start if you both have the same goals.

Alison Edwards runs http://www.SnappyDates.com/ a UK based dating site.
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